Can you separate your feelings toward your career and your life outside work? That’s an odd question and I know whatever you’re not happy about at work carries over home. Equally I’ve found many who feel disconnected from their work can’t describe how they feel other than throwing their hands in the air. Why is that? It’s because they’ve learned to cut off their emotions and bury them for so long they can’t describe what emotions they have. Does your career force you into a Jekyll & Hyde personality to cut off your feelings to survive?
What makes your day? What’s your reason for getting through the day? The satisfaction that you’ve done your work and you’re comfortable. You stop thinking about how to manage the rest of your life with ease, it’s not possible now.
Are you driven with purpose? Does the structure of your day provide comfort to know what’s possible? Or are you kidding yourself and can’t think about anything until later and can’t even say when later is?
Today companies hire based on your demonstrated skills to be a high performer rather than a late bloomer or genius in waiting opportunity to show how you can excel. As a late bloomer or genius in waiting, you never know when you will be given the chance to take the leap and step up. When the conversation focuses on what you can deliver, it’s a conversation a late bloomer may never be given a chance.
You know the conversations back as an adolescent that you’ll catch up to others. Little did they understand then, how that earlier conversation stayed with you about being a late bloomer?
Imagine bellying up to the counter at your local ice cream shop and asking the server for “whatever you think I’d like.”
Of course you wouldn’t do that. With a rainbow of ice cream flavors tempting you, making a choice might be difficult, but you’d do it. “Give me Cherries Jubilee and Chocolate Night, put the chocolate on the bottom and get a scoop with lots of cherries in it for the top.