Can you separate your feelings toward your career and your life outside work? That’s an odd question and I know whatever you’re not happy about at work carries over home. Equally I’ve found many who feel disconnected from their work can’t describe how they feel other than throwing their hands in the air. Why is that? It’s because they’ve learned to cut off their emotions and bury them for so long they can’t describe what emotions they have. Does your career force you into a Jekyll & Hyde personality to cut off your feelings to survive?
What makes your day? What’s your reason for getting through the day? The satisfaction that you’ve done your work and you’re comfortable. You stop thinking about how to manage the rest of your life with ease, it’s not possible now.
Are you driven with purpose? Does the structure of your day provide comfort to know what’s possible? Or are you kidding yourself and can’t think about anything until later and can’t even say when later is?
I’ve been speaking to women lately who are counting down their time to leave their jobs. They’re hiding behind the mask. When they consider what’s next, they see their mask is removed and face an eye opening mask with one eye open. Is it all about the money? Don’t get me wrong the financial side is clearly important. You can become so sidetracked that you forget to see options that don’t have an expense attached to them.
How do you preserve the knowledge and brain capacity you’ve gained over the past 15-30 years? Is your next career a wink by succumbing to a vast chapter of freedom without direction or goals? It’s the same as turning your car engine over and sitting in the driveway. You have a choice: either put the car in reverse or drive and move toward your next adventure. Even if it’s not the grand adventure of million dollar movies, it’s your adventure that gives you purpose.
Here’s are a few late bloomers that stretched their capacity to thrive after their 50’s.
- Dr. Ruth Westheimer, sex therapist, okay she was 52 when she was just getting started with sex therapist, being an author and interviewer for Sexually Speaking radio show.
- Gladys Burrill, at age 86, she ran her FIRST marathon. Yes, 26.2 miles at age 86. Wow!
- Margaret Thatcher, Prime Minister of the U.K. for 11 years (back in 1979-90) at age 52.
- Adrianna Huffington, Media Columnist and Author, founded Huffington Post at age 55.
- Laura Ingalls Wilder, Author, wrote Little House in the Big Wood at age 65. Her final book was written at age 76.
- Grandma Moses, Artist, started painting in her 70’s and had her big painting break at age 78.
- Susan Boyle, Singer, was discovered on Britain’s Got Talent, at age 47. She agreed her late bloomer status was attributed to her Mum.
There are others you’re familiar with especially in your local communities. It’s easy to overlook how ordinary people can go about their ordinary day facing the same challenges as you and I. Yet you can gloss over their obstacles to see their road to discovery as an overnight success. Yes, it was their living experiences and overcoming daily obstacles that they learned to persevere. No easy feat or justification for late blooming.
Here are three steps to build momentum and enjoy extraordinary achievement:
- Be Comfortable in Your Own Company (and let go of the drama).
It’s so easy to get caught up in your own obstacles and distracted because it’s taking longer than you expect. Believe me, no one is keeping track. No one is comparing. Enjoy the lessons learned because you are the only one that’s learning on your path. No one else can ask why is it taking you longer than they think it should. No should haves, could haves or comparisons because you move forward when you’re meant to. It’s plain and simple.
- Accept new discoveries that redefine you by Allowing New Boundaries of Expansion.
By welcoming new experiences, you continue to stretch yourself. You aren’t defined by your past and all previous experiences provide momentum to continued life learning and growth. When you’re working, there are opportunities that are non-debatable where you have to learn new skills. When you allow your own resistance to enable whether you slow down your own process or continue, you decide whether you’re expanding or resisting. When you are enabled to see the new things open new doors or opportunities, you are defined by how much you allow rather than pushing back and feeling stuck.
- Your most freeing and vibrant years begin at age 60-70.
Wisdom gained in these latter years are enabled by tapping into unrealized dreams knowing your health and intellectual capacity are the benefactors for later years. The more active you in engaging your brain activity slows down your atrophy of sitting idling and focusing on the past. What’s your wildest dream? Former President George Bush went skydiving in his 90’s and continued several years into his 90’s. Are you ready to try skydiving? What have you go to lose?
It’s true while you may be wearing a mask while you’re in your job and know you have other aspirations when the job ends, plan the activities that will enable you to grow and thrive in your later years. It’s momentum, freedom and your best chapter. Drop the mask and enjoy who you really are what you’re here to accomplish.
If you want to continue the conversation, email me at Karen@kscopefocus.com. Karen helps professionals transition to remove the mask they’ve worn in their careers to discover their real extraordinary purpose. When you stop worrying about Retirement, you discover your next career has thriving momentum it took you six decades to discover.